Last week, I met on the phone with a friend of mine. At the end of our conversation, I said to her, “If we are having this same conversation in January of 2018 and nothing has changed, I’m going to be really pissed off.” We agreed that every two weeks, we will get together to talk about where we are with our goals. This year is the tail end of a very transitional period in our family. Gavin will graduate from high school. I will finish graduate school, and the hubs will finish his school and return to the operating forces. With all the change going on in our family, I thought it was important to have someone to help me stay focused on the changes I am trying to make in my life. Having an accountability partner, for me, is going to be critical. Because we all know that talking about changing something and doing it are two totally different things. This year, here’s what I want to do.
Write. Everyday. I have heard countless podcasts and read countless articles that say if you want to get better at writing, you need to write every day. You would think I’d have mastered this skill by now. No. So, whether writing for grad school, my memoir, this blog, another blog, or for a client, my plan is to write at least one page, every day. If I miss a day, that’s okay. Start over the next day. But start somewhere.
Kindness Out. Kindness In. I spent the better part of last year really struggling to redefine some of my relationships. Sure, after Noah died, some of that happened naturally. But I was surprised when I returned to my community, after being gone for a couple of years, by just how much I had changed. And what the change boils down to is kindness. Losing someone you love or going through something terrible–Let’s just say that I needed kindness in. I couldn’t handle negativity or any kind of drama. It was too much for my little brain to take. Over time, I learned to take the kindness in, to let people help me, and to allow myself to be loved, even though I’ve made mistakes. When I allowed the kindness in, I felt a change. I noticed I was putting more kindness out. I realized that as I started to recognize other people as flawed, imperfect humans like me, I was able to extend more kindness into the world. Sure, my old habits creep in–the gossip, the judging, the frustration. I. am. human. So this year, I’m continuing to consciously surround myself with people who are kind to the world and giving kindness back to others.
Finish Grad School. Three more classes. I can do this. I can DO this.
Grow The Beat Goes On. In the past year and a half since the hubs and I sat down to envision The Beat Goes On Project, we have
- established The Beat Goes On Project as a legal 501(c)(3)
- appointed a very talented board of directors
- recruited a gaggle of volunteers
- written a strategic plan
- made it possible for others to give through snail mail, Amazon Smile, and Facebook
This year, we go live on our website and grow our community. We are looking forward to what this year will bring for those families who have lost children, who are searching for meaning and purpose.
Here’s to a very positive 2018. What are your goals for this year?
With so much love,