Circa April 15, 2011
So, I’m reading this book titled, Naked, Drunk, and Writing: Shed Your Inhibitions and Craft a Compelling Memoir or Personal Essay. You have all been so supportive and while I’ve toyed with the idea of writing a book for a long time, I never really felt I had anything spectacular to say. Some days, I still don’t, but other people seem to think I do, so maybe it’s worth a shot. So, in that spirit, I scoured the resource section of our soon-to-be-out-of-business Borders and grabbed five books on how to write a novel or a memoir. I don’t know what will come of it, but it’s a start.
Lesson One: Write about the moment something changed.
- the death of my mother
- starting college later in life
- meeting the husband
- the birth of my kids
- coming to terms with my family drama–we all have it
- early married life
- horrible bosses
- hubby’s first combat deployment
- leaving “home” (meaning California) for the first time
- the death of my uncle
- graduating from college
Wow, there is nothing like taking a mini-walk through the events that changed your life. Some changes sting more than others and some bring me tremendous joy; but all of them shaped who I am. My new writing coach (all of my books) says find the points of change, the turning points and the learning points, and write about those. I guess I’ll do it one step at a time.
Update March 2015
I got as far as Chapter 2, got a new job, and a promotion, PCS’d twice, and I couldn’t put as much time as I would have liked into this book that doesn’t exist. I’ve added a few major bullet points to the list since then.
- deciding to stay in the Marine Corps as long as they will have us
- pressed pause on my career to be with my family
- started my own business
I feel like my story isn’t finished, and to write about it now seems premature. When we decide it’s time to leave this nomadic life behind and sail off into the sunset, it might be time. But for now I feel like we are just getting started, on more than one front. I guess time will tell us all.
Update August 2015
I guess I was right.